Today's ponderings are about living in the moment. I have a really deeply ingrained habit of thinking about the next thing. You know the way some people never seem completely there when you're with them? That's how I feel and I know I miss so much.
There is so much peace in this moment. The now. At this particular moment I have work piled up under my arms but as I type this thought, I am so content and not in a hurry to rush off to the next thing, like cleaning up the piles on my desk. They will be there in 5 minutes. Who knows, by the time I get done with this post, the phone could ring 10 times or not at all. Either way, I am here and I am happy.
I ponder how many great moments I may have missed or prevented someone else from experiencing all because I was in a colossal rush to get to the next thing. It makes me a little sad. How many times could I have slowed down to show someone how valuable they are to me by giving them my full attention? How many smiles could I have shared with my children if I wouldn't have been in such a rush to get them here or there.
Today I am going to slow down and not rush. My priority is people and relationships. Yes work needs to get done and it will. Yes laundry needs folded and dishes need to be done and they will be done. But none of this is going to be done at the cost of those I value.
Am I the only one who struggles with this? It seems that the vast majority of my friends are great at doing the balancing act. The run the kids to all their lessons and activities and volunteer and help the kiddos with their homework and have dates with their husbands and always look great and are most always on time and arrive with a smile on their face. Do they struggle with the rush? Do they shortcut relationships along the way?
This moment I am going to just breath and say a prayer of thanks that I have this moment and that it is good.
Have a wonderful day!
Showing posts with label time mgmt. Show all posts
Showing posts with label time mgmt. Show all posts
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Time
I am sitting here wondering what happens to all my time. I have lists of things I need to accomplish and a timeline to do them in but when push comes to shove, my lists remain only half done.
Let me give you an example. Monday I had the day off so I had this beautiful plan of getting some housework done then playing with my children for the majority of the day. Instead of following this plan, I did the dishes and laundry (and more laundry) and then cleaned my room. I had these boxes that were blocking my closet as well as laundry baskets and winter blankets. I had very limited access to the closet (and gasp, my shoes!) so I was just piling my clothes on top of the piles that we blocking my access thus making the problem worse. Something needed to be done! I started with the laundry baskets...who knew there were 3 loads of laundry in them that needed folding? Ugh! I piled all the laundry that needed to go in the closet on my bed and worked on emptying the boxes. 2 garbage bags later, I was able to access my closet so I put the laundry away. I stopped and made lunch and played with my littlest for a bit then sent him to play some more in his room while I continued. I found more that needed my attention so did that. Before I knew it I had spent 5 hours cleaning my bedroom. Walking in my house, you wouldn't know that I had spent almost the equivalent of my workday cleaning! I hate that feeling! We never made it out of the house, unless you count taking all the trash and recycling from my room to the cans outside as "getting out".
I have great plans of spending time making memories with my guys and growing friendships and spending time with my grandmother before I don't have that option any more and doing crafts and reading and keeping my house looking amazing so I can entertain at the drop of a hat (so NOT how it really looks). I feel like I am missing the mark in every category.
How do I gain control of the clock and manage it in a way that works with my family and leaves me feeling good about how I spend my time and energy instead of always so guilty for not doing enough or spending enough time with those around me?
Look for more on this subject as I start to figure it out. Leave comments to let me know how you do it. I'd love feedback and ideas.
Let me give you an example. Monday I had the day off so I had this beautiful plan of getting some housework done then playing with my children for the majority of the day. Instead of following this plan, I did the dishes and laundry (and more laundry) and then cleaned my room. I had these boxes that were blocking my closet as well as laundry baskets and winter blankets. I had very limited access to the closet (and gasp, my shoes!) so I was just piling my clothes on top of the piles that we blocking my access thus making the problem worse. Something needed to be done! I started with the laundry baskets...who knew there were 3 loads of laundry in them that needed folding? Ugh! I piled all the laundry that needed to go in the closet on my bed and worked on emptying the boxes. 2 garbage bags later, I was able to access my closet so I put the laundry away. I stopped and made lunch and played with my littlest for a bit then sent him to play some more in his room while I continued. I found more that needed my attention so did that. Before I knew it I had spent 5 hours cleaning my bedroom. Walking in my house, you wouldn't know that I had spent almost the equivalent of my workday cleaning! I hate that feeling! We never made it out of the house, unless you count taking all the trash and recycling from my room to the cans outside as "getting out".
I have great plans of spending time making memories with my guys and growing friendships and spending time with my grandmother before I don't have that option any more and doing crafts and reading and keeping my house looking amazing so I can entertain at the drop of a hat (so NOT how it really looks). I feel like I am missing the mark in every category.
How do I gain control of the clock and manage it in a way that works with my family and leaves me feeling good about how I spend my time and energy instead of always so guilty for not doing enough or spending enough time with those around me?
Look for more on this subject as I start to figure it out. Leave comments to let me know how you do it. I'd love feedback and ideas.
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